The hard truth about confidence is many people blame it on circumstances, but it’s really about inner permission. When you were born, you had no confidence issues. Let me be crystal clear, you were not born with confidence issues.
Most of what you call “life problems” aren’t actually life problems.
They’re confidence problems.
It’s a hard truth, but it’s also an easy one because confidence isn’t a personality trait. Its origin is internal and can be relearned or reprogrammed to its original state.
You Blame Circumstances, But It’s Really Self-Doubt Running the Show
We tell ourselves we need the right timing, more money, or better people.
But none of that matters if you’re dealing with a mental block.
Confidence isn’t arrogance.
It’s permission.
Permission to take up space.
Permission to try.
Permission to have needs without apologizing.
Even The Smallest Confidence Issue Can Sabotage Your Life
The slightest confidence issue whispers:
- “Are you sure you should say that?”
- “What if they judge you?”
- “Why bother trying, you’re a failure.”
And then what happens?
- You overthink until the moment is gone
- You say yes to avoid conflict
- You think of the perfect comeback three days later
- You play small even when you know you’re capable
- You let your guard down, and someone bolder takes over.
People think they’re “stuck.” I agree, you are stuck, and nine times out of ten, it’s from something that happened when you were seven or eight years old. That should blow your mind right there.
You Don’t Need a New Life, You Need To Reset To Your Original Internal Voice
You can change your job, your relationship, your entire environment, but if a person’s confidence is weak, they recreate the same patterns. Everyone notices that. You can see how a lack of confidence can affect every area of your life.
Confidence shapes how you:
- speak
- love
- ask
- choose
- walk away
- take up space
It’s not that you don’t believe you deserve more or better. It’s not that you think you deserve less. It’s like a brain freeze, a mental block. And it can be fixed in a 90-minute RTT Session (using the Marisa Peer Method).
If you decide to use RTT, try to think of one or two additional issues you’re experiencing, and we can address as many as possible during a single session. Check out my homepage for more information.
Signs Your Confidence Is the Real Problem
If these feel familiar, it’s not circumstance, it’s confidence. Seeing it in yourself means you have profound self-awareness. Let’s turn this around because you notice it all the time in others.
- They apologize for things that aren’t their fault
- They wait for permission or validation before acting
- They worry about being “too much”
- Assume rejection before it happens
- And second-guess every decision
An internal lack of confidence simply means someone you trusted said something that made you doubt yourself. This can also happen in abusive relationships when someone you love keeps tearing you down until there’s nothing left.
Where Confidence Issues Start (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)
Confidence wounds usually come from earlier experiences:
- critical parents or caregivers
- perfectionism growing up
- being compared to siblings or friends
- relationships that made you feel small
- trauma or instability
- or something stupid that happened on the playground when you were five
It’s completely fixable. You must reset your internal voice to its original setting. When you were a baby, you loved and were absolutely thrilled with every single finger and toe. Think about it. You have no confidence issues, you loved yourself and knew there was nothing not to love.
All this crap was added in later by the world.
How to Rebuild Your Confidence (For Real)
Here’s the truth:
You don’t “feel” confident at first. You need practice to get comfortable with it and make being confident familiar. It will feel unfamiliar until you get used to it.
1. Practice Being Uncomfortable
Do one uncomfortable thing each day.
When you first start asserting your confidence, it will feel uncomfortable in the moment, but the minute right after that, it’s gonna feel good.
- Say no without overexplaining and watch them accept it
- When you’re confident, everyone around you becomes more comfortable
3. Stop Asking for Permission
You are allowed to want things.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to try and fail and learn from it.
How old are you? Asking for permission at your age could be seen as inappropriate.
What Happens When You Fix the Confidence Problem
It’s a mind shift to your original mindset that you were born with:
- Better relationships appear
- You stop chasing and start attracting
- Decisions become easier
- You gain sharper clarity and focus
- You gain a new level of self-respect and self-preservation
Resolving your confidence issue is a permanent mindset shift, and you will never go back to having internal confidence issues again.
Confidence Isn’t Magic; You Were Born With It
Your confidence issues are not permanent.
They’re simply old programming.
As a certified RTT Practitioner, I provide 90-minute targeted sessions to resolve confidence issues at their subconscious root.
If you’re ready for measurable, lasting change, book your RTT confidence session now. It has been scientifically proven to work in one session. Confidence sessions are one of my favorites to do because they’re life-changing every time.
Good talk, let me know if you need a mental boost.
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