Let’s be honest:
You keep acting like your confidence is some rare, limited-edition item you misplaced in 2013, like it’s sitting under your bed next to one lonely sock and a charger that fits nothing you own anymore.
Spoiler:
Your confidence isn’t broken.
It didn’t expire.
It’s just buried under years of self-doubt, cringe memories, and whatever that one teacher said to you in 7th grade that you still think about at 2 AM.
If you’ve been wondering how to rebuild your confidence after self-doubt, you’re in the right place.
In my line of work, it’s a simple fix.
You Didn’t Lose Confidence, Life Just Piled Stuff On Top of It
When you were a kid, you had no shame.
You’d dance in public.
You’d wear outfits born from pure chaos.
You’d ask “why?” 500 times a day.
Confidence? Unlimited supply.
Then life came in like:
“Actually… let’s humble you real quick.”
- Someone made a comment about you
- You got embarrassed once
- You were told to “tone it down”
- You compared yourself to makeup artists on social media who don’t even look like themselves
- You started overthinking every move like it’s a chess game, and you’re battling the world champion
Now, suddenly, you’re out here apologizing for existing and saying “sorry” because you just caught yourself being stuck in your head.
Signs Your Confidence Is Buried (But Definitely Still Alive)
If any of these feel too real, your confidence is in there somewhere:
- You rehearse texts like they’re Broadway scripts
- You need three people to approve your outfit before leaving the house
- You say “no worries!” even when you are, in fact, extremely worried
- You avoid opportunities because “what if I look dumb?”
- You randomly remember something embarrassing from 8 years ago and need to reboot your whole system
This isn’t your identity; it’s just what happens when you don’t know how to rebuild your confidence after self-doubt.
Good News: You Can Rebuild Your Confidence After Self-Doubt (Like Legos, But Less Painful)
You were born full of confidence, and you loved every single finger and toe. You thought your body, hands, and feet were the most amazing things you’ve ever seen.
Here’s how to start bringing that inner knowing back:
1. Catch your inner critic in action.
When your brain says, “Everyone is judging you.”
You say: “They’re not even thinking about me, they’re thinking about themselves.” Nobody is thinking about you more than they’re thinking about themselves. When you reach thirty-five, you realize nobody was ever thinking about you at all.
2. Stop waiting to feel “ready.”
You’ll never feel ready; you have to jump in and be willing to be new at something. Be proud to be a beginner and keep showing up. I’ve worked with many clients who have 8 years of college and no degree yet. They can’t decide. It’s a confidence issue.
3. Let in the good!
Let “good enough” be good. Recognize the good. Point out the good when you can. But mostly point it out to yourself when it happens to you.
Done is better than perfect.
4. Celebrate tiny wins.
You answered an email? Hero.
You said “no” and didn’t feel guilty for 8 hours? Champion.
You must praise yourself instead of allowing your inner critic to terrorize you. You make that voice in your head your own personal life coach, or think of it as your lifelong cheerleader.
This is literally how you rebuild confidence after self-doubt. It’s small wins stacked daily. It feels unfamiliar at first, until you make it feel familiar and good to praise yourself.
What Happens When You Become Aware Of Your Confidence
Remember, you were born with unshakable confidence. You start moving differently, and people feel it.
- You stop over-explaining
- You stop tolerating low-effort relationships
- You trust yourself
- You’re comfortable with yourself
- You notice people are more comfortable around you
- You make sound decisions
- You stop waiting for someone to validate your choices
You don’t become a new person.
You become the version of you that fear and doubt were covering up. If someone said something when you were seven years old, it shook your confidence because your subconscious mind believed it.
If you need more and want to get ahead faster, it can be resolved in one session with me or any other RTT practitioner.
If You Want a Faster Reset
If this practice/group session isn’t enough, consider a personal 90-minute session that works the first time.
You’ve read the quotes.
You’ve watched the “mindset hacks.”
You’ve even tried talking yourself up in the mirror (we see you).
Here’s the truth when motivation isn’t enough.
You don’t just need pep talks.
That’s exactly what RTT does.
It doesn’t just quiet self-doubt; it resolves the core issue that causes the false feelings.
The most negative inner critic becomes your inner coach or inner cheerleader.
No more fighting your mind.
No more overthinking.
You need the true internal story because now you can look at it as an adult and realize you were just a kid.
You can resolve the old and untrue beliefs that have been holding you down for years, because RTT = the mental reset button they don’t tell you about.
If you’re ready for that, you can learn more, or you can book a session here:
👉 Reclaim Your Confidence